Print this page and mark activities that have been part of your tradition in the past with a "T" and check with a "W" what you want to do this year. Share this list with your family or have them complete a list of their own and then compare notes.

Christmas Cards ____ Mail as usual ____ Shorten the mailing list ____ Include a "Christmas letter" ____ Choose not to send this year Decorations ____ Decorate as usual ____ Modify decorations ____ Ask for help ____ Let others do it ____ Have a special decoration for loved one Shopping ____ Shop as usual ____ Give cash ____ Shop through catalogs ____ Ask for help ____ Shop early ____ Make gifts ____ Give baked goods ____ Shop with a friend ____ Ask for help wrapping gifts ____ Exchange gifts later Christmas Music ____ Enjoy as usual ____ Avoid turning on the radio ____ Shop early before stores start playing Christmas music ____ Listen to it, have a good cry and allow yourself to feel sad

Traditions ____ Keep the old traditions ____ Attend holiday parties ____ Don't attend holiday parties ____ Bake the usual holiday foods ____ Buy the usual holiday foods ____ Modify or reduce holiday cooking and baking ____ Go to religious services ____ Do not attend religious services ____ Attend religious services but at a different time ____ Attend a totally different church ____ Spend quiet time alone ____ Visit the cemetery ____ Open gifts on Christmas Eve ____ Open gifts on Christmas Day Christmas Dinner ____ Prepare as usual ____ Go out for dinner ____ Invite friends or family over ____ Eat alone ____ Change time of dinner ____ Change routine of dinner, such as buffet instead of sit-down ____ Change location of dinner; eat in different room ____ Ask for help Post Christmas and New Year's Day ____ Spend as usual ____ Remove Christmas decorations early ____ Go out of town ____ Avoid New Year's parties ____ Attend a New Year's party ____ Have a New Year's party ____ Spend time with only a few friends ____ Go to a movie ____ Go to bed early ____ Write in your journal your hopes

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